Getting Help Safely
What support services do ā and how to use them discreetly.
š Getting help does not mean losing control.
You choose what happens next.
Why Getting Help Feels Hard
Common fears
- Fear of being judged
- Fear of losing children
- Fear of escalation
- Fear of not being believed
Why these fears are understandable
Abuse trains people to avoid risk. Hesitation is a safety response.
What Happens Behind the Scenes
Support services work quietly and confidentially.
When you make contact
- Your details are protected
- Notes are minimal and secure
- No automatic reporting
Risk checks
Risk is assessed to support safety ā not to force action.
Different Types of Help (Explained Simply)
Helplines & Live Chat
Immediate listening, reassurance, and options.
IDVA / Advocate Support
Specialists who help with safety, housing, courts, and planning.
GPs & Health Services
Can document harm and refer quietly to specialist help.
Police (optional)
Only when you choose or when immediate danger exists.
Preparing Before You Reach Out
Low-risk preparation
- Choose safe times
- Use private browsing
- Have key information ready
If Children Are Involved
What services focus on
Keeping children safe while supporting parents ā not punishment.
After First Contact
What usually happens next
- Follow-up options
- Safety planning
- No pressure decisions
Getting Help Flash Cards
Getting help meansā¦
Gaining options, not losing control.
š National Domestic Abuse Helpline (UK): 0808 2000 247
š https://www.gov.uk/guidance/domestic-abuse-how-to-get-help
š https://www.gov.uk/guidance/domestic-abuse-how-to-get-help
