What To Do During
This page is for moments where something feels wrong
and thinking clearly is hard.
You do not need certainty.
You do not need to explain.
Your goal is safety first.
There is no perfect response.
Any action that increases safety is enough.
First check — are you safe right now?
Your priority is distance and help.
Get to people, light, exits, or call for assistance.
Trust the signal.
Discomfort is enough to change behaviour.
Reduce risk, not explain
You do not owe politeness, honesty, or clarity.
Leaving is enough.
You do not need a reason.
Use interruption:
change location, involve others, delay, or disengage.
If pressure continues
Pressure means choice is already compromised.
You are allowed to leave suddenly or seek help immediately.
If you freeze or comply
This is a normal survival response.
It does not mean consent or agreement.
If you’re witnessing this happen
Interrupt safely.
Create distraction.
Bring others in.
Stay with the person if you can.
As soon as you can
Get safe.
Reach someone you trust.
Write down what you remember.
Support is your choice.
If you remember nothing else:
You do not need certainty to protect yourself. Safety comes before explanation. Survival responses are not consent.
You do not need certainty to protect yourself. Safety comes before explanation. Survival responses are not consent.
